With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, or Single’s Awareness Day as some like to call it, I have noticed more and more people rushing to Walmart to buy that all important last-minute gift. Whether it’s a life-sized stuffed bear, a wilted potted rose, or an oh-so-heart-felt Hallmark sentiment, the thing I’m left wondering is — where did the thoughtfulness go?
When did it become okay to accept a $15, pre-wrapped basket filled with Valentine’s Day garbage from the person who is supposed to be madly in love with you, or at least like you enough to put up with you?
It would be easy to say the days of well thought out gifts have gone by the wayside with the invention of Facebook and the Internet generation, however I’m not sure those days ever existed. Even on episodes of shows like “Leave it to Beaver,” Ward got June roses as a gift only because they were the stereotypical gift for women, not because she had any sort of botanical pursuits or fascinations.
I’m not saying every gift has to be a bank-breaking masterpiece, but Walmart’s $5 special on roses and a stuffed dog should not be your go-to idea.
It seems like there is no thought required when purchasing a gift for your significant other — all women love diamonds and flowers and all men love beer and football, easy right?
I don’t think it should be so easy, at least not easy in that everyone automatically gets the same thing. It should be easy because you know the person you are buying for so well that you don’t even have to think about what they’d like, you just know.
You should know if she has a thing for a certain author or if he has an obsession with a well-known science fiction saga, and you should be able to take that knowledge and find or make or at least think of a nice gift for your person.
Take time this year to really pay attention to what your gift is saying about you and what you know about the person you’re buying for. Whether it’s the old ball and chain, a crush, your mom, or your kid, you should know what they would like, because you might be saying the wrong things to them with the wrong gift.