I sent out this text yesterday morning: “A young pastor texted me this morning…he wants to know lies women believe. Can you think of any? I won’t give any names…” I asked 50 women: senior adults, a high school student, college kids and grads, doctors, teachers, a principal, two of my sisters, stay-at-home moms, professionals and numerous friends. These were some of their answers:
1. I can’t really do all things through Christ.
2. I am worthless.
3. I am not beautiful.
4. I need to be skinny.
5. I won’t amount to anything.
6. I have to have a man to be happy.
7. God can’t forgive me for what I’ve done.
8. Even though he beats me I know he loves me.
9. I have to cover my face in tons of makeup to be beautiful.
10. If I take these pills I can look like that super model on the commercials.
11. I’m not good enough to be God’s child.
12. I need “stuff” to make me happy.
13. I can always depend on my friends to be there for me.
14. My husband is being faithful-when he’s not.
15. I would be a better Mom if my childhood hadn’t been so messed up.
16. If my parents had loved me and protected me I wouldn’t have gone down the wrong path.
17. If you love me, you will_______________________.
18. Because I can’t do all the things the other moms are doing, I’m a failure.
19. All the girls who have pretty clothes and have parents who really love them…God must love them more.
20. I need to change to get and keep a man.
21. I need to sleep with a man before we are married to see if we are compatible.
22. If I find another man, I will be happy again.
23. I must be thin for my husband to love me.
24. I must take care of everybody because that’s my job.
25. It’s too late to pursue my goals and dreams because I am a wife and mother.
26. If I just do as I am told then I will be loved.
27. I can depend on this guy to meet all my needs…after all, he is the man.
28. I’m not good enough for him.
29. You are unattractive.
30. You’re unaccepted.
31. You’re insignificant.
32. I’m not as successful as _________________.
33. I’m not as pretty as _________________.
34. I’m ugly.
35. I’m not good enough to be a Christian.
36. I’m not pretty enough.
37. God isn’t gonna give me a husband.
38. The devil tells me that no godly man is gonna love me because of mistakes I’ve made.
39. If I have sex with him, he will love me.
40. If I have _________________ (material thing) then I will be accepted by my peers or I will be happy.
41. You are nothing without a man.
42. Men only care about your appearance. If you are pretty, ALL men will be nice to you, but women will snub you.
43. Every good mother should stay home with her kids.
44. If you stay home with your kids, you don’t have as much value as a working woman.
45. Nobody loves you. Your family would be better off without you.
46. You will never amount to anything.
47. I’m not thin enough.
48. If you’re not Supermom, then you aren’t all you can be.
49. If you go through hardship, you must not have enough faith.
50. If God really loved me, this would not be happening.
I cried numerous times during the day as I read my messages-couldn’t help it. Though my sisters in Christ differ greatly from me at times, in the deep recesses of our hearts and minds, we are very much the same. The devil can wreak havoc with his lies and the games he plays with our heads! That’s why he’s called “the enemy” (1 Peter 5:8).
Last weekend I heard a story about an orphan girl named Arianna who lived in Russia. A short time after she was born, her mother died. Arianna was an outcast because she was of mixed race. Her father had only been visiting her country before she was born. No one knew who or where he was. A friend of her mother’s took her in but made no bones about the hardship it was to be responsible for her. She reminded Arianna daily that she was an orphan.
One day, when Arianna was 16, some men came to her town looking for her. Amazed, Arianna asked why. One of the men said, “Your father is an African prince. He is about to become king. You are a princess!”
“But I’ve lived here for 16 years as an orphan,” she told them, trying to understand.
“Your father just found out that you were alive! You are his only child! We’ve been looking everywhere for you! And now we’ve come to take you home!” they exclaimed.
That’s exactly what God did…He sent His Son across heaven and earth for us!
Psalm 139:13-16 says: “For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.” He’s known all along who and where we are!
Even when we become daughters of the King, we sometimes forget whose we are. The devil often tries to make us feel like we are orphans…on our own…all alone. We don’t need to ACT like we are princesses…but we always need to remember who our Father is!
When you feel pushed down and discouraged, say “I am His!” out loud three times. See how that makes you feel!